What Guys Won’t Tell You About Fingering
What Guys Won’t Tell You About Fingering
In theory, understanding what to do seems straightforward, but in practice, it’s more complicated than it appears. Figuring out what you enjoy can be quite challenging. Does that moan mean…? What about that deep sigh? Even if he’s done it a dozen times before, he might still feel anxious and uncertain unless you guide him through the process.
The Risk of Carpal Tunnel Syndrome
Guys admit that they know they’re doing it right when their hand starts to ache or even feel broken. Oh, the complexities of body mechanics! To get the perfect position, one has to twist their hand in ways that might seem unnatural. This might explain why sex toys come in such strange shapes.
Multitasking Challenges
It seems impossible. You want one hand inside, another caressing your back, all while you’re both lying down and he’s nibbling on your ear. Sure, most people want stimulation in more than one area, but some desires are simply impossible to fulfill when there are only two of you in bed.
Following Past Advice
Men often rely on techniques suggested by former partners. So, if you don’t tell him what you like, he won’t change anything. The common male misconception that all women like the same things is flawed. Some might enjoy sucking and stroking, especially with lubrication. However, women have different levels of clitoral sensitivity, and some techniques might be unpleasant or even painful. But your man isn’t a mind reader, so he’ll stick to his tried-and-true methods.
Slowing Down
Some guys realize they should slow down. But it’s so sexy when you ask for it. It’s easy to break the mood by asking, “Are you close?” Fortunately, some guys know to ask more subtly, like “Higher or lower?” or simply wait for your request. Be open with your responses!
The Finger Dilemma
How hard is it to guess how many fingers to use? Especially when today you might want one thing and tomorrow something completely different.
Post-Fingering Etiquette
Men often wonder if it’s okay to touch you with their hands after fingering. Should they wipe them with a napkin or wash them in the bathroom? Why isn’t there a handbook on etiquette for these situations? Don’t worry; there’s no strict rulebook for oral sex either. To each their own.
The Thumb Rule
Remember the thumb, right? It’s like the rules for holding a steering wheel—you need to know the directions. In reality, you should alternate between touching the clitoris and other parts, but ingrained rules are hard to break. Learn to break them together!
Speeding Up
If things aren’t going well, some guys think speeding up will help. But does a guitar sound better when played faster, with fingers worn to the bone? I’ve always thought not. How did this idea even come about?
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