9 Things You Should Stop Doing After a Breakup
9 Things You Should Stop Doing After a Breakup
Every day, there are approximately 3 million dates and nearly 2.5 million breakups worldwide, according to a study by Fastcompany. Break-ups happen to everyone, but you’re a strong woman who doesn’t give up easily. Even if your relationship has ended, you won’t fall into depression, miss a day of work, or waste your newfound free time. Instead, you might use it to learn a new language. However, you may still make a few mistakes while recovering from the shock. Here are nine things you should avoid doing after a breakup:
1. Cutting Your Hair into a Bob
Should you chop off your hair just because you’re single? It might be tempting to create a ‘new you’ and experiment, but perhaps it’s better to pause before making radical decisions. The period after a breakup is an excellent time to stay in your comfort zone and regain confidence in yourself and your body.
2. Stalking Him on Social Media
First things first, unfollow and remove him from your friends list. His Instagram stories can completely kill your ability to move on. Being curious about how he’s having fun without you or who he’s talking to will only make things worse. Out of sight, out of mind.
3. Binge-Eating Sweets
If your freezer looks like a candy store, you have a problem. It’s okay to be sad and drown your sorrows in alcohol, but not for more than a day. If all your nights in a week are filled with snacking, it could turn into a real eating disorder.
4. Looking for a New Boyfriend
Some magazines present this as an opportunity to remember your attractiveness, make new acquaintances, and step into new relationships. In reality, you might not be ready to open up to a stranger and talk about the last few months of your life. It can also make you feel guilty for not being able to give your full attention to a nice young man who is interested in you.
5. Staying Friends
Yes, I know this topic is controversial. At some point during the breakup, I myself agreed to stay friends to ease the separation. But here’s the problem: men and women can’t be friends, especially after breaking each other’s hearts. Moreover, it’s incredibly difficult to continue when one of you starts a new relationship.
6. Insulting Your Ex-Partner
Many people give nicknames to their exes, but there’s nothing to be proud of. You can’t spend months convincing your friends and family how wonderful he is, and then suddenly start denying everything. Respect the time you spent together and the good times you had if you want to be respected in return.
7. Listening to Depressing Songs on Repeat
If Adele tops your ‘Frequently Played’ list, it’s time to switch things up. I suggest you try Beyonce’s fiery album or discover some new artists with deep lyrics.
8. Spending Money on Unnecessary Things
Some people have a husband, I have a puppy. The first few weeks after a breakup are clearly not the best time to get a new pet. Of course, I don’t regret it, but a dog is a responsibility that you take on for decades. Make sure you’re physically, emotionally, and financially ready to have a pet.
This also applies to shopping. Put your credit card away in the farthest pocket of your wallet—a full closet won’t fill the void inside you.
9. Withdrawing Into Yourself
Perhaps the most popular habit is to emotionally shut yourself off from everyone around you during heartache. In reality, the bravest thing we can do is open up and show our fear to close friends and family. Be open and receptive to the people around you.
