Spring's Love Formula: Unlocking the Magic

Spring’s Love Formula: Unlocking the Magic

Spring is in the air, with its gentle drizzle and the sun’s warm embrace. As you stroll down the street, you notice the first leaves sprouting, ducks pairing up, and the grass turning green. Everything rustles, and your heart sings. You feel a sense of freedom and hope, longing for the most essential thing in life—love. Do you believe in love? If so, read on. If not, keep reading anyway; you might find a smile creeping up or your mood lifting. Even if you’re deeply committed, this article might awaken fresh energies for love within you.

Want Love? Love!

Where does love begin? It starts with you. Love is a natural state of the soul, not the mind—a state of warmth and light. The mind merely finds ways to express this love. Of course, you’ll need to negotiate with your mind. Your ego, that self-loving ‘I,’ is infatuated with its beliefs, limitations, high standards, and perceptions of reality. It says, ‘Let me meet Him, the perfect and unique one, the most correct and caring. He will love me, and then I, perhaps, will allow myself to enjoy love.’ And so, a woman full of hope and love walks around with a stony face, trying to calculate, assume, weigh, and analyze everything. To all the living but not quite perfect knights, she seems uninterested in love. There might be a ‘caring’ one who calculates all the stereotypes and reaches her heart—only for all her defenses to crumble. But love won’t blossom. Because the heart and ego never agreed in the first place. Remember: like attracts like. Men similar to us enter our lives. And love is always equally magnificent—whether it’s for children, parents, nature, a dog, a friend, or life itself. Unless, of course, we’ve burdened ourselves with a few ironclad beliefs.

Look Within and Find These Beliefs:

‘I am unworthy of love (who would love such a… bore, blonde, awkward person, aesthete).’
‘To love is to love until death, it’s not worth wasting on trifles.’
‘Only a king deserves to love such a queen (I go to the gym, earn a lot, have taste, and style…).’
‘I am only happy when I am loved. Love makes me happy; without it, I wither and suffer.’
‘A man is like a quality mark for a woman. A worthy man shows the true value of a lady.’
‘All men are jerks… (or the normal ones are married or gone).’
‘Love is fairy tales for naive girls.’
‘A man is a gift from heaven; if any appears, grab him and mold him into a diamond later.’

Each of these beliefs has some use. But they spoil life more, even for married ladies, leading to relationship disorders, dependency, and suppression of one of the partners.

Maintaining the Flow of Love

True, enduring love is where a man and a woman sustain a river of emotions. At the beginning of a relationship, at the peak of infatuation, everyone feels like a king or queen. We are free and spontaneous, full of affectionate words and humor. Carry all this into your life a year, three, or ten years after the wedding! Any difficulties will seem smaller when there is acceptance, support, joy, empathy, and respect. Your space of love, even if you are alone, will color life in tender, joyful hues. How important it is to feel that you love!

Pour out this feeling to refresh it, to illuminate your life. When the space of love works, you make decisions with love. With love, you can criticize but not insult; you can stop but not hit. If you are upset, offense will make you withdraw, but love will give you the strength to open up and share your problem. If your husband had a bit too much to drink at a party, your pride might urge you to start a scandal, but love will help you bring him some pickle juice. And you can set things straight with his sober mind.

True, harmonious love is not blind—it is genuine and objective. Everyone you love: your children, your family—is more important than the opinions of relatives or the crowd in the store. If we love ourselves and our loved ones, if we value love as the most important thing in our lives and nourish this river, then pride, excessive ambitions, envy, resentment, and demands, and malice will fade away on their own. There will be no time or energy left for them.

Creating a Spring Collection of Relationships

Not only nature evokes pleasant associations. Visit any shopping mall in February and March and see the updated clothing collections: they are joyful and tender at the same time. All the signs of spring create a romantic, loving mood. Let’s try to decipher them and create your spring collection of relationships.

Renewal

The world seems newly painted. It is renewal that creates the energy of development. Relationships need to be developed at any stage. Think about what new things you can offer? Renew and refresh the exterior—bed linen, dishes, curtains. Update the places and topics for communication, go for walks, take mini-trips, invite guests.

Playfulness

There is so much light green around. Tender leaves and olive grass on the streets. It’s because we need to play. Flirt and tease! Play and seduce! Wink at each other, joke, banter—keep yourself in good spirits. Any game is welcome: leave little notes in pockets or playfully play strip games. This also includes all kinds of tag and a slightly upturned nose. Feel like a prize, but don’t run away too persistently—it’s a light game.

Admiration

Birds sing in the branches of trees. Birds sing to attract and enchant each other. You can also sing praises: admire each other. Of course, in the world of winged creatures, this is more often done by males, but why can’t ladies show their innate artistic abilities? What about expressions like: ‘There is so much magic in you’ or ‘Thoughts of you delight me, like a rainbow after a warm rain.’ It can be simpler: ‘You are my magician,’ ‘You are incredible,’ ‘You are always beautiful in everything,’ ‘You are the best thing in my life.’

Sensuality

Bare knees appear from under skirts on the streets, and short dresses in stores. No, you don’t need to be completely naked all the time, but adding a bit of eroticism is good. Change a little, especially in the evening and at night. A beautiful, lacy peignoir, a new white terry cloth robe, or pajamas with embracing cats—first of all, you should enjoy looking at yourself. (This also relates to point 3 about birds: fluff your feathers). Add more kisses and hugs during the day.

Victory

Spring is the time of winners. Winter is behind, and almost everyone has a victorious march playing in their soul. On clothes, along with lace, you can see gold buttons and rhinestones. Refresh your wardrobe with light things. Pamper the queen in you and the king in your loved one. Go to a café together; spring is the best time for a celebration.

Tenderness

In flower shops and on flower beds—bouquets of tender tulips and snowdrops. On the racks—pink, lilac, soft blue blouses and sweaters. Tenderness and delicacy, caution in clarifying relationships will help you strengthen your feelings.

Childlike Innocence

Among the tender shades, pink and blue—the colors of childhood—predominate. Stay children at heart—only children experience honest emotions; it is the childish ‘I’ that gives us the ability to rejoice and love.

By Olga Pavlova, HR Development Consultant, Trainer, Business Psychologist