What’s Holding You Back from Finding True Love
What’s Holding You Back from Finding True Love
We all know Shakespeare’s famous line, “Love flees from those who chase it, but pursues those who flee.” The meaning is clear as a Sunday morning: don’t chase relationships, and they will find you. But what if fleeing means making mistakes and unconsciously pushing away your own happiness? Let’s explore how modern women might be unknowingly reducing their chances of finding “the one.”
Prioritizing Wants Over Needs
You might want a man who earns well, but what you need is someone who is financially responsible. These two traits don’t always go hand in hand. Even if your wishes come true, they might not lead to a stable relationship. Instead of focusing on what you want in a future partner, think about what will contribute to a healthy and lasting relationship.
Not Making Enough Time for Dates
In this busy world, everyone seems to be occupied with ambitious projects. While it’s true that we all have a lot on our plates, some people use “being busy” as an excuse. Every businessman who sees a psychologist complains about the same thing: they’re too busy to date. Meeting new people and building relationships is also work. If your schedule is packed with work plans, it won’t help you find love.
Not Giving People a Chance
Ask yourself: are you judging potential partners too quickly? Maybe your criteria are too strict, like requiring someone to be 6 feet tall, blonde, and live within two subway stops. If you don’t give someone a chance, you might later realize that they could have been the perfect partner. Remember, we’re not born with one ideal soulmate. Many people can be “your type,” so you just need to get to know them.
Chasing Someone Who Isn’t Interested
The game of cat and mouse usually ends with the cat tired and still hungry. You might chase someone who seems perfect, and maybe your story could be a “Great Love Story,” but in the end, it might leave you broken. If you feel like the person you’re spending all your time on doesn’t appreciate it or prioritize you, it’s best to let go and move on.
Ignoring Your Burnout
You can’t succeed at anything if you’re burned out, and this applies to dating too. If you’re tired of meeting new people and every date feels the same, take a break! A month or two can help you recharge and get back on track.
Staying Too Long in Unhappy Relationships
Staying in a relationship that brings only pain can lead to unhealthy behavior patterns and bad habits. At best, you’ll break up and spend a long time alone, afraid to let new people into your life for fear of disappointment and stress. At worst, you’ll carry the burden of the past. The fear of being unhappy again can blind you, preventing you from moving forward and opening up to new experiences. It can make you emotionally immature and unable to trust. If you’re strong enough to break up with a toxic partner, aim higher—let people surprise you again. At least you have the experience of knowing how to behave when a relationship no longer satisfies you.
Finding true love is a journey, and sometimes we are our own biggest obstacles. By recognizing and addressing these behaviors, you can increase your chances of finding a meaningful and lasting relationship.
