Speak Like a Lady: How to Kick the Swearing Habit
Speak Like a Lady: How to Kick the Swearing Habit
We’ve previously discussed books that help develop speech and enrich your active vocabulary. Today, let’s tackle a common issue: eliminating bad language habits, specifically the use of profanity.
Understanding the Problem
For some, profanity seems like the most expressive and versatile part of the Russian language. However, many find it offensive and crude, capable of ruining even a promising first date. While movies with R ratings are becoming more common in both Hollywood and domestic cinema, and directors consciously include profanity in their final cuts, it’s important to note that societal norms against obscene language are not entirely fading. In polite society, profanity remains unacceptable, and although it may appear in films, media outlets are closely monitored by regulatory bodies like Roskomnadzor to prevent its use.
Recognize the Need for Change
I recall the moment I disappointed my father by swearing in front of him for the first time. Today, I strive not only to eliminate profanity from my speech but also to regulate my tone and expressiveness. It’s crucial to understand how you want to be perceived by others and what they expect from you. This realization can provide significant motivation for change.
Identify the Root Cause
The first step in changing any habit is understanding why it occurs. Often, profanity seems appropriate in moments of shock or rebellion, reminiscent of teenage behavior. But is it really appropriate? And isn’t your teenage phase long over? In advertising, sex sells, but today, shock value is also a strong seller. In 2017, Burger King’s bold billboards made us question their seriousness. Do you feel the need to swear in conversation? For what purpose? People won’t hold you in high regard for using profanity, nor will it make you more attractive in their eyes. However, they might appreciate your creativity in transforming words with prefixes and suffixes.
Enhance Your Awareness
Once you have the necessary motivation, pay more attention to how you speak. Try to pronounce words more slowly and clearly. This is especially challenging when you’re angry or in pain, as profanity can slip out like a reflex. Set a limit for yourself: allow only one small swear word per day. Replace the rest with unusual phrases. I enjoy expressions from the Courage-Bambey studio’s dubbing, such as “iodine damnation,” “epic shame,” and “pliers.”
Focus on More Than Just Content
Lower voices tend to sound more adult and professional. Even if your voice is naturally high, you can speak half a tone lower, making your voice uniquely yours. Additionally, remember to breathe, especially during presentations or conversations with intimidating individuals. A simple trick is to write “breathe” in a visible place before starting your speech or to repeat “inhale-exhale” as a mantra.
