Falling for a Younger Guy: What to Do When He’s 10 Years Younger
Falling for a Younger Guy: What to Do When He’s 10 Years Younger
Relationships between a woman and a man who is 10 years younger often raise eyebrows. Friends may not understand what you see in this “youngster,” and relatives might think that such a relationship won’t lead to anything good. But what should you do if you’ve fallen for a guy who’s significantly younger than you?
Why Women Are Attracted to Younger Men
Every woman has her own idea of what her ideal partner should be like. For some, it’s important that he be a blonde with blue eyes. Others want a sporty, muscular young man who makes all her friends swoon. And for some, a kind heart and attentive attitude are the most important qualities. Often, age is the least concern for women when it comes to choosing a partner.
However, modern psychologists have identified several key reasons why women might exclaim, “I’ve fallen for a younger guy!”
The Peak of Sexuality
It’s known that women reach their sexual peak between the ages of 30 and 40, while men reach theirs much earlier, around 19 to 25 years old. Therefore, it’s not uncommon for a mature, successful woman to choose a younger, sexually active man who can bring new colors into her life.
Lack of Romance
At a certain point in life, a woman in her 30s or 35s might feel that her daily routine has become too gray and boring. She might crave a bit of romance, which a younger man can provide. A younger partner can help a woman relive her youth and carefree days, bringing back the excitement of dating, kissing in the movie theater, and receiving romantic gifts.
Search for New Relationships and Adventures
Some women can’t stand a quiet, measured life. They crave something new, unusual, and interesting every day. In this case, a relationship with a younger man can be just the novelty they need to bring new emotions and experiences into their lives. However, such relationships often don’t last long, as the call for new adventures soon beckons again.
What to Do If You’ve Fallen for a Guy 10 Years Younger
If you’ve fallen in love and decided to pursue a relationship with a man 10 years younger, the first thing you should do is think carefully. Ask yourself what you want to get out of these relationships. While you can consult with friends or even parents, they will likely try to dissuade you from what they see as a foolish step. Ultimately, the decision is yours alone.
If you’ve decided to go ahead with the relationship, try not to fall into the role of a “mommy.” Don’t act like you always know best and can solve any problem—be it financial, domestic, or work-related. Never remind your partner that you’re older, wiser, more experienced, and know better. Doing so will only undermine his efforts and likely lead to a breakup.
Don’t hide your beloved from your parents, friends, or colleagues, especially if you have serious intentions. And don’t allow your young man to do the same to you. You are both adults who have made your choice, and there’s no need to be ashamed.
So, if you’ve fallen for a guy who’s 10 years younger, don’t make a tragedy out of it. There’s no need to feel self-conscious about it either. This is your life, and you decide how and with whom you want to live it. Just live and be happy that your chosen one is the best guy in the world, and you can’t imagine anyone else—neither a peer nor an older man—in his place.
For further reading on relationships and love, you can visit Psychology Today.
