Common Mistakes to Avoid When Setting Goals in Business and Life

Setting goals is a popular topic today, with countless discussions on how to do it right, what approaches to use, and how to ensure all goals are achieved. However, navigating through the vast amount of information can be overwhelming, and using inappropriate methods can do more harm than good. Here, we delve into common mistakes to avoid when setting goals in life and business, with insights from Zhanna Kazanskaya, a serial entrepreneur and founder of the Woman Wings community for women.

“I Want Something Vague, Somehow”

Vague definitions of desires, such as “happiness, wealth, or success,” are rarely constructive. To achieve a goal, it’s crucial to clearly articulate it and define the criteria for success. Moreover, if you detail your desires and visualize your feelings and state upon achievement, you might realize that your goal is already within reach; you just haven’t noticed it.

“Exactly Here, Exactly Now”

Clearly defined goals are essential for achievement. However, being overly specific with boundaries and criteria can lead to building an unattainable “castle in the sky” and missing the moment when things are already good enough. Remember, things don’t have to turn out exactly as you envisioned. Sometimes, they might turn out even better. Be flexible and avoid extremes.

“Everyone Talks About It, So It Must Be Right”

Today, numerous popular methods for setting and achieving goals exist. One of the most widespread is the SMART system, which includes five key aspects:

Specific: The goal should be concrete and positively framed, not abstract or vague.
Measurable: The goal should be quantifiable with indicators to show it has been achieved.
Achievable: The goal should be attainable, meaning you have the necessary resources or know how to obtain them.
Realistic: The goal should be relevant and truly important to you.
Time-Limited: The goal should have a clear deadline.

While this is a useful tool when used correctly, don’t limit yourself to one approach. Avoid trying to fit your goals into a specific method. You don’t have to adhere strictly to any single approach. Try combining several methods, taking what works best for you and your specific goals.

“The Goal Must Be Realistic”

It’s true that goals should be realistic and achievable. However, some people interpret this too literally and set rigid boundaries. This can result in goals that are merely tasks for the next few weeks or months, fitting into routine work and familiarity. Goals should be about extraordinary actions and outcomes, elevating you to a new level, directing you in a new path, or significantly changing your life. Ambition, in adequate doses, is beneficial. What if you succeed?

“Everyone Does It, So Should I”

Social media, success stories, and advice from every corner influence our worldview. Imposed desires and goals are a side effect of deep immersion in the social space. Seeing someone buy a new expensive bag, car, or house in a particular country might spark your interest to do the same. However, it’s essential to distinguish between your own desires and those imposed by others. Perhaps you’re not interested in any of these things, and all you want is to open your creative studio or embark on a backpacking trip around the world. Ensure your goals align with your values.

To differentiate between imposed, stereotypical goals and your own, have an honest conversation with yourself and answer these questions:

Why do I want this?
How will I feel when the goal is realized?
How will I feel if the goal is not achieved?

“I Want Everything at Once”

Often, goals are not achieved because they are too distant and don’t align with current realities. Ambition is good and useful, but it’s important to understand that global goals can’t be reached instantaneously. Small, systematic steps and smaller goals that contribute to the larger objective, along with available resources, will help you reach the finish line without giving up at the start. Consistency, patience, and regularity are key.

“I’ll Show Them All”

Sometimes, people set goals to prove something to others, to be “good,” or to gain recognition. These are called compensatory goals. Some people lack attention and love, and instead of addressing this deficit—turning to loved ones or a psychologist—they set goals to fill the void. It’s crucial to set goals that are truly your own and not driven by external validation.

For further reading on self-improvement and achieving your goals, consider exploring resources from reputable sources like Psychology Today.