11 Reasons Why You’re Called a Bitch – And Why It’s Unfair
11 Reasons Why You’re Called a Bitch – And Why It’s Unfair
Last fall, I found myself sitting in the corridor of an emergency room with cracked ribs, waiting for my turn for an X-ray. A couple approached the door with the classic “we just have a quick question.” I rightfully protested, and in an instant, I was labeled a bitch. Is it really that hard to wait your turn?
This scenario repeats itself several times a week in various places. I’m a petite woman with a youthful face, and every third man I encounter complains about my terrible character, suggesting that a “real” woman would have kept quiet. In reality, I’m quite friendly, but my assertiveness is often mistaken for bitchiness. Here are several more reasons why you might be called a bitch, and why it’s unfair.
1. The Same Behavior Would Be Praised in a Man
The world is full of double standards. Men are called assertive or strong-willed for behaviors that earn women the label of a bitch. You don’t care about these standards and refuse to grant men special privileges. That’s all that matters.
2. You’re Not Afraid to Lose Face
You’re not concerned about what others think or about creating uncomfortable situations. For example, if your partner says something publicly that you find unacceptable, you don’t hesitate to point it out immediately. It was inappropriate, and it needs to be addressed. Some might think you’re crazy, but you don’t care.
3. You’ve Been Called a Bitch Too Often
Society still isn’t used to women who aren’t afraid to stand up for themselves. When you assert yourself, people are often surprised. Some are so taken aback that they start calling you names. You don’t care because you know you’re just being persistent and straightforward. A woman who firmly defends her boundaries is so unusual that it offends some people. This is a quality to be proud of.
4. You Intimidate Some Men
You’re assertive, and this scares off certain types of people. Some even try to sneak away from a date when they realize who they’re dealing with. It’s okay if a guy can’t handle the truth about your character. It means he can’t handle your needs and desires, so he’s not worth your time. It’s almost funny how an ordinary woman can intimidate a grown man.
5. You Don’t Tolerate Disrespect
Nothing slips by when it comes to your desires and boundaries. If someone crosses the line, they’ll know about it. This doesn’t mean you make a scene over every little thing. You simply point out that certain words are hurtful and unfair, and you try to prevent the situation from repeating.
6. You Ask a Lot of Questions
If something is unclear, you ask questions to understand. You’re not afraid of seeming ignorant. You show people that you want to understand everything and ensure your voice is heard.
7. When You Speak, People Listen
Your voice commands attention when you need it. For example, if a delivery service messed up your sushi order and refuses to compensate, you won’t let it slide. You’ll demand a refund and ensure they don’t get away with it.
8. You’re Damn Confident
Another reason people always listen to you is your confidence. You refuse to apologize if you’re not at fault. Your voice is clear and steady, and your tone is even. Those who support you are always impressed.
9. You Excel in Leadership Positions
Your behavior doesn’t go unnoticed by employers. It’s clear that you can present yourself and highlight your best qualities. As a result, you often find yourself in leadership positions because you effectively interact with many people.
10. You’re Great at Your Career
You climb the career ladder by speaking up about what you need and deserve. You’re not ashamed to negotiate your salary when other women are afraid to even broach the subject. As a result, you get great offers and continue to advance.
11. You Have Your Own Opinion, But You Know You’re Not Always Right
Being assertive and confident doesn’t mean you think you have all the answers. Like everyone else, you make mistakes, but that doesn’t stop you from expressing your thoughts.
For further reading on assertiveness and confidence, you can visit Psychology Today.
